How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

The rules within a romantic relationship are usually straight forward; you care and look after her and she looks after you. Everything else you can figure out on the go and generally you’re both happy most of your time together.

Then the big dreaded break up occurs and suddenly the rules of the game are no longer familiar.

The dangerous part is, if you don’t educate yourself and be up to date with the rules of the break up game, you might find yourself knee-deep in a heap of emotional crap that you’ll carry for months or years to come.

I see a relationship as a contract with a set of agreements. Once a relationship ceases to be, that contract is gone and now it’s every man for himself. Here’s 6 Rules you need to be aware of to help you survive you break up.

Rule #1 – Do not give her the same amount of attention you did during your relationship.

It’s normal to be showering each other with love and attention during a relationship, but once that relationship is no more, offering the same amount of that attention, is deadly because it envelopes both of you in a false sense of security and “hope”.

Hope is deadly if it’s fake and headed to the town of nowhere.

Remember she is NOT your girlfriend anymore, giving her all the same attention will only drain you in the long-run and prevent you from moving forward. Not to say you need to be rude and ignore her, but firmly start to establish boundaries with what you will and won’t do.

Rule #2 – Do not remain best friends if you think it will eventually lead to you getting back together.

There is nothing wrong with being friends with an ex, but ONLY if you know where you stand and won’t challenge to cross that line. This means happy being friends and ONLY friends.

If you still want her back, this is not your case and choosing to remain friends will benefit her more than you. Believe me, she’ll be happy and comfortable just to be friends if that’s all you’re offering to her. On the other hand, if you remove that extra comfortable from her, she might be shocked into making some positive moves towards your direction.

Comforting her during the break up is also not wise as you’ll be draining your own energy, so where does that leave you?

Rule #3 – Do not stop her from seeing other guys.

Often, if your ex is flaunting the fact that she is seeing other guys, it’s a sign that she’s doing so to check your reaction. Even if she’s not flaunting it, subconsciously she’s wondering if you would care and how you would react to finding out.

In other words, your reaction to this is quite important and could lead to either added points your way or minuses depending on how you go about it.

Do not restrict what she wants to do. If she is happy to see someone else, give them that chance and show her you are only happy to see her happy too.

Rule #4 – Do not try to control, manipulate or try to make her jealous.

If these were a problem during the relationship, it’s a good time to start cleaning your act up and show her you are NOT that guy anymore.

Perhaps being a bit protective and controlling was fine while in a relationship, but continuing to do so after your break up is not attractive or desirable.

Be supportive but also keep your distance. You are both grown-ups, no need to feel the need to protect and guard all the time.

Rule #5 Never try to keep tabs on where she is going or what she is doing.

This means constantly calling and checking up on her to see what she is up to, or constantly accusing her of being with someone else. Sure this might have been normal to do during your relationship, but now that sort of behaviour will only get you arrest.

Practice being indifferent to what she does or who she’s with. The best way to do that is not to obsess about her 24/7, but to keep busy with enough going on in your own life to truly not have time to care about hers anymore.

Rule #6 – Don’t try to use the usual tactics to woo her back.

Romancing with gifts, flowers, cute cards and such were sweet during your relationship, but doing so now, will only make her feel weird about being around you.

These acts of love will seem like an after-thought now that you have broken up. Where were these gestures when you were together? She won’t buy your sincerity if you go down this route. It’s best to save your money and work on other means to get her back.

These rules of the break up won’t be easy for someone who has just come from a relationship. Nevertheless they are important to note and keep in mind, not only for your wellbeing but to help you get back together in the future.

Taking note of these new rules of the relationship will help guide you when you find yourself unsure how to act or what to do in any particular situation. The best way to win your girlfriend back is to gain the right plan which utilizes these rules and helps you along in the right direction. Get the help you need by heading to Get Her Back For Good.